Going through a divorce can rock your family and change its dynamic in more ways than one. Your children will feel the volatility of these changes and may struggle to adapt to shared custody.
Responding the right way to their needs during this time can make a considerable difference in your connection with them.
Keep your dignity
The way you feel toward your ex could trigger lots of strong emotions. You might find yourself venting to anyone who will listen. Even though having people to talk to is a good thing, use discretion in who you speak to about your divorce. Never vent to your children. Refrain from sharing details with people who interact with your children and might accidentally say something. Your caution will help you keep your dignity.
Prioritize your children
Put your children first. Recognize that this situation has altered their world in many ways. Do your best to maintain a consistent schedule. Ask them about what they feel excited about. Discuss their concerns and connect them with professional help if needed.
Make time for self-care
Your children will feel your stress and angst. According to Medical News Today, according to various studies, children of divorced parents who experience parental discord are at a higher risk of developing behavioral and psychological problems.
The way you care for yourself can do a lot to give you the strength, rationale and motivation you need to make it through this time. Make time to do things you enjoy. Prioritize rest, eat nutritious food and drink plenty of water.
Your thoughtfulness in how you approach the care of your children during this time can contribute to their ability to adapt and thrive.