Every divorce is different, shared by each couple’s unique circumstances and priorities. Still knowing the general flow of the process can help ease some of the emotional and logistical stress.
Uncertainty can make anything feel more daunting than it truly is. When the future feels hazy, even simple decisions can seem overwhelming, but understanding what to expect can offer a sense of structure, control and much-needed peace of mind during an otherwise difficult time.
Step-by-step through the divorce process
Divorce typically begins when one spouse files a formal petition with the court and serves legal notice to the other. This filing signals the official start of the legal process. The spouse receiving the petition then has the opportunity to respond, either agreeing with the terms or contesting them. In many cases, the court may issue temporary orders early on to maintain stability while the divorce is pending.
Once both parties are actively involved, the next stage is called discovery. In uncontested divorces, where both spouses agree on all major terms, discovery may be skipped or kept minimal, but in contested divorces, discovery is usually essential. This phase involves a formal exchange of financial information and other relevant documents. Both sides may also answer written questions under oath or participate in depositions. Discovery helps ensure that all assets and liabilities are fully disclosed so that decisions about property division, spousal support and parenting plans are based on accurate information.
If spouses can agree on the major terms, such as child custody, visitation and financial support, they may negotiate a settlement. Courts often encourage mediation to help resolve disputes without the need for a full trial. If no agreement is reached, however, the case moves to trial, where a judge will make the final decisions.
When a settlement is reached, the agreement is submitted for approval. If the case goes to trial, the judge will issue a final decree after hearing both sides. This decree legally ends the marriage and outlines the division of property, custody arrangements and any continuing obligations. While the process can be emotionally and financially challenging, reaching the final step offers closure and a foundation for the next chapter of life.
No matter where you are in the process, getting experienced legal guidance can make a difference. If you have questions or concerns, it may be time to talk to someone who can walk you through what comes next.